How to Talk Yourself into Changing | Stop the Self-Sabotage and Get Unstuck

Today’s episode will change the way you speak to yourself—and what that inner dialogue creates in your life.

If you’ve ever felt stuck, overwhelmed, or unsure about how to make lasting change, this conversation is for you. You're going to learn the surprising science behind self-talk and motivation—plus how to shift the language inside your mind so it starts working for you, not against you.

Change can begin with one powerful shift: changing the conversation inside your head. And this episode breaks it all down.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• What “change talk” and “sustain talk” actually are—and why they matter so much

• The #1 ratio that predicts whether you'll succeed in changing your life

• The neuroscience behind how words create action (or self-sabotage)

• Four powerful strategies to shift your internal language starting today

• How to disarm shame, fear, and self-doubt using evidence-based mindset tools

• What to do when your inner critic or others around you reinforce your stuckness

• Simple daily practices to rewire your brain for lasting transformation

Whether you're trying to break an old pattern, start something new, or just feel better in your own skin, this episode gives you the roadmap—and the voice—you need.

If you're serious about growth, listen until the end and take notes.

Chapters

00:00 – Welcome to Personal Mastery
01:04 – The Most Overlooked Ratio That Predicts Change
03:02 – What Is “Change Talk” vs. “Sustain Talk”?
05:02 – The Science Behind Why Your Words Shape Your Life
08:47 – Why Gratitude Can Sometimes Keep You Stuck
10:55 – What the Research Says About Inner Dialogue
12:52 – 4 Strategies to Shift From Sustain to Change Talk
17:24 – Common Barriers: Shame, Identity, and External Noise
21:10 – You Are Worthy of Trying Again
22:53 – A Daily Practice to Rewire Your Self-Talk
24:48 – Final Takeaway and Coaching Invitation

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