I'll Be Happy When… Why Not Now? | Why the Story You've Been Telling Yourself About Happiness Is Wrong

This episode could change your relationship with happiness forever. If you’ve ever found yourself saying “I’ll be happy when…” — this conversation is for you. You don’t need more accomplishments, more money, or more time to feel the way you want to feel. You need a new story.

Today, Jerry shares one of the most powerful mindset shifts you’ll ever hear — rooted in neuroscience, behavioral psychology, and real-life transformation.

This is the episode that will help you take your power back.

You’ll learn:

• The psychological trap of “I’ll be happy when…” — and how it’s wired into high achievers

• Why your nervous system resists joy (and what to do about it)

• The story you’ve been telling yourself — and how to rewrite it

• The surprising truth about happiness and your brain’s dopamine system

• A simple exercise to access happiness right now — no external changes needed

• The Camino moment that changed Jerry’s perspective on changing our state — and how you can replicate it in your own life.

Whether you’re burned out, chasing the next goal, or just feeling stuck in your own success — this episode is a wake-up call.

Because happiness isn’t a reward for getting life right.
It’s the fuel that makes life worth living.

Chapters

00:00 - Welcome to Personal Mastery
01:12 - Why “I’ll Be Happy When…” Is a Lie
03:58 - A True Story About a Terminal Diagnosis and Perspective
06:07 - The Trap of Delaying Happiness
07:46 - What’s Behind the Story? Fear, Unworthiness, and Addiction
09:55 - The Brain Science of Why We Resist Happiness
12:16 - Why Your Inner State Shapes Your Outer Life
14:25 - My Camino Story: How I Learned to Access Joy On-Demand
17:32 - How I Recreated My Happiness State Without Leaving My City
19:26 - You Can Rewire Yourself for Joy
21:06 - Write a New Story: You Deserve to Be Happy Now
22:15 - Final Truth: Your Story Is What’s in the Way
23:24 - Take Action: How to Start Living a Life That Feels Good Now

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I am grateful you are here,
Jerry

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